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When
things are going well for you, you may feel that you have
a lot of confidence in the different parts of your life -
your work at college, your friends, the way you feel and look,
the way you are with other people. When you're feeling this
way, you have the energy to try new things, to cope with set-backs
and keep them in proportion, and you'll probably see the funny
side of things, and not dwell on the difficulties.
Sometimes
it doesn't take much to shake this confidence. Maybe you've
not been sleeping well, and you have a really bad day. Perhaps
an assignment which you thought was OK, hasn't got the marks
you hoped it would. Maybe you are not getting on well with
your friends - perhaps there's been a row or just a disagreement
or misunderstanding. Suddenly you don't look or feel as good,
the future's not so great, and you start to worry about things
which never bothered you before. You may begin to wonder what
other people think about you, whether you really are good
enough to be on your course, or whether you are ever going
to be the person you'd really like to be.
Some
people lose their confidence for a short time, it's a temporary
set-back. For others, their belief in themselves is quite
shaky and fragile, and it may not take very much to make them
feel quite low.
Whether
it's a short term set-back or a real blow - check out the
facts. Be honest with yourself, and try to involve someone
else in the process. If you have doubts about your coursework,
try to pluck up courage and ask your tutor. If its friends
or family which are giving you doubts, talk to them more,
not less. Have things always been this way? List the things
which you have been able to do, and the people who could give
you some help and support. You'll probably find its easier
to think of all the things which are going badly, but that's
because you are not giving the same attention and energy to
the things which are going well, or which are carrying on
as normal.
There
may be Confidence Building classes that you can go to (Sometimes
they are called Assertiveness classes).
Keep
some evidence of things which you can do well - all kinds
of things from practical things you have done, through to
friends or challenges which maybe only you know you have faced
successfully. This will help to remind you that things change,
and that they are not always as bad as they seem.
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